Five Self-help Suggestions

1. Don't buy pop-self-help literature, it doesn't work.  If you must read self-help books, I'm willing to bet there's a public library somewhere near you.  I use two that are near my home and I can't imagine not having them.  This is the best kept secret in the book world.  A place you can go and find information on any subject you can imagine without being bombarded by advertizing, stupid people, unruly children and uneducated, uninformed employees.  The libraries in my area (and probably most) even have lots of DVD's of popular movies as well as educational subjects if you're just not in the mood to read.  Not to mention the books on tape/CD.  I haven't tried it but I have heard from numerous independent sources that listening to books on tape or CD while driving is one of the best ways to stay awake when driving. (Disclaimer: If you experience fatigue when driving, it's best to pull over in a safe, well lit area and get some rest.)  One could go on and on about the benefits of our public libraries but my main objective here was to steer you away from the junk toward the real value.  Self-help books are the written equivalent of the pet rock.
2. Read classic literature.  The insight and condensed wisdom found in the time-tested works of fiction over the past 2500 years cannot be overstated as to its value to your education.  You may have hated having to read "The Great Gatsby" in high school or "Emma" in your English lit class but look again.  High school and college are not only not the end of your education, they may not even have been the beginning.  If you've been paying attention the last three decades, many colleges and other higher learning institutions are "popularizing" just to pay the bills.  This fact leads me to number 3...
3. Take responsibility for your own as well as your children's education.  That doesn't mean quitting school/college and walking the earth or yanking your children out of public/private school and home schooling them.  It means turning off the TV, removing the ear buds and talking.  I have no data to back it up but I believe TV is on the decline in families that matter.  By that I mean families headed by adults who understand their real responsibilities toward themselves and their children.  It's been said that the children are our future.  This is backward and dangerous thinking (one could write a book on this idea alone).  We are our children's future.  Think about that.  I don't mean for a moment, I mean think about it all the time.  Let it permeate all your actions.  If you don't have children, no worries; this bit of advice may be the beginning of a direction that leads to a family of your choosing, with or without children.  The possibilities are yours.
4. Live YOUR life.  I don't have a PhD in psychology and I don't let anyone who does have one tell me what to do.  These (your superlative here)'s don't have any authority over you, nor do they have the answers you need.  For that matter, I don't either.  You do.  (Disclaimer: If you are currently under treatment for a mental disorder or psychological issue, please don't abandon it.  I wasn't talking to you.  Continue getting whatever help you may need to deal with any legitimate mental health issue.)  I'm talking to the Dr. Phil crowd.  I'm not saying Dr. Phil gives bad advice.  I'm saying you don't need him.  If you follow some of the things I've said above, you'll find yourself way ahead of the Dr. Phils and the phreemynds as well.  A good teacher only uses a handful of raw facts but guides each student to recognize and follow their own direction.
5. Write.  Almost without exception, people who achieve their goals and improve themselves continually will attribute part of their success to writing, whether it's a journal, a list of goals, to-do lists (which I personally hate), a blog or some combination of any or all and more.  I've always been fascinated by how many criminals and otherwise less than honorable characters were brought down/exposed by their personal diaries.  What were these low-lifes thinking?  They lied, cheated and stole their way to the furthest heights of low-lifery but they couldn't tell a few fibs in their diary just in case their luggage got lost.  Dirty accountants keep two sets of books; I wonder if they keep two diaries as well.  This should give you some idea how important writing is when people are willing to risk having their misdeeds exposed in order to gain the benefit writing about them yields.  Incidentally, it should also illustrate that writing won't cure arrogance or greed.